Books

Books by Janis Abrahms Spring with Michael Spring:

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
New York: HarperCollins (2012) second edition, completely updated with a new chapter on affairs in cyberspace
Also available in Kindle and audio CD editions

Infidelity is often the deathblow to a relationship. But it can also be a wake-up call, challenging couples to confront the issues that led to the affair and build a healthier, more intimate relationship than before. As a clinical psychologist who has been treating distressed couples for over 35 years, Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring has found that couples can survive infidelity, provided that both partners are willing to look honestly at themselves and at each other and acquire the skills they need to help themselves through such a shattering crisis.
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How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive,
The Freedom Not To

New York: HarperCollins (2005)
Also available in Kindle edition

Forgiveness has been held up as the gold standard of recovery from interpersonal injuries. We have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. In real life, however, hurt parties often find that they can’t or won’t forgive, particularly when the offender is unrepentant or dead.

In How Can I Forgive You?, Genuine Forgiveness is reframed as an intimate dance, a hard-won transaction, which asks as much of the offender as it does of the hurt party. Offenders will learn how to perform bold, humble, heartfelt acts of repair to earn forgiveness, such as bearing witness to the pain they caused, delivering a meaningful apology, and taking responsibility for their offense. Hurt parties will learn to release their obsessive preoccupation with the injury, accept a fair share of responsibility for what went wrong, and create opportunities for the offender to make good.
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Life With Pop: Lessons on Caring For an Aging Parent
New York: Avery Penguin (2010)
Also available in Kindle edition

From bestselling author and clinical psychologist Janis Abrahms Spring comes a refreshingly honest and tender portrait of a devoted daughter shepherding her father through his final years of life.

After her mother died, Janis inherited her father (Pop) and set off on an all-consuming, five-year mission to make his days as rich and comfortable as possible. This is their story, overflowing with humor, insight, and love.
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